If you are trying to figure out what is causing all of the stress in your body, you may want to do some research. This is something that you can do on your own to find a way to pin point the problems and to get started with the treatments of them. You should sit down and think about the problems that you are having in your life and what you can do to change the situation.

Make a well thought out list of all the problems that you are facing in your life. Think about these problems and what you are worried about. When you are thinking about what is disrupting your life, you may find the answers to the questions of what is causing all of your problems and your stress.

Think of all the people that are adding to your stress. This will include all relationships both at home and at work. Figure out what the problems are with these people and if you need to have them in your life or if they are someone that you should distance yourself from. There is nothing wrong with ending a relationship that is in turmoil. You should be prepared to do this if it is relevant to your health and well-being.

Think of things that you can do to improve your lifestyle. If you are eating the right things, taking the time to exercise and get the proper nutrients for your body. Are you talking about your feelings with others? Do you need to find a different career path? These are examples that you need to think about when you are trying to define your life and what is causing you the most problems with stress

Do not forget about the humor and entertainment in your life. You have to include these things into your life so that you are taking a break from the stress that can build up. You should jot down the things that you like to do and what makes you happy. Make sure that you are applying these things to your life so that you can become a better and well-rounded person.

Make sure that you are going over your lists on a regular basis. Make the necessary changes where they are needed and take the time to enjoy things. You need to stop and smell the roses once in a while to maintain a healthy outlook on life. You will find that once you apply this list, you will watch your stress disappear for good.

The secret I’m going to share with you will help make 2010 bigger and more successful than you’ve ever imagined. This one thing is the key element that has created more success than anything ever discovered. Before I share this powerful “missing piece,” it’s necessary to explain a couple of things.
What would you like to be or achieve? No matter what you declare to be your objective, as soon as you identify what you want, it’s normal to automatically justify obstacles in the way to getting it.
You may say, I want more money, but I don’t know what to do to make it happen. Or, you may state, “I want to start living my life differently but….” The list of obstacles, limitations, and excuses in the way to a bigger life, can go on forever. The truth is that reasons why something isn’t possible are always greater than what’s possible for you to overcome in your current level of existence. The only way to overcome the barriers in life is to become double eye-sighted.
Double eye-sightedness is a phrase I coined meaning, “Keeping one eye (the weaker eye) on what’s in the way, and keeping the other eye (the stronger eye) on what you want.”
When we recognize the barriers in life but stay focused on our desired results, something happens. The barriers diminish or change while our desired results become more of a reality.
I realize this process is easier said than done and to make it a feasible means to success, you need something of great power—courage. Successful people may lack many things. A successful person may have started with nothing—no money, intelligence, experience, or opportunity. But, the one thing every successful person does possess is courage. Not the courage to go onward toward their dreams, but the courage to do whatever they could with what they had to work with at that time.
Most people know what they would like their lives to be, or what results they would like to achieve. They just don’t know how to make it happen. The key to achieving any level of success or greatness is to have the courage to do any actions steps you can, at this time, with what you have to work with, and that’s it.
As you complete the little things you can do right now, your life will change and so will your barriers and resources. Your barriers may diminish or change to something completely new. The new barriers will require you to continue with the process of immediately doing whatever you can, with what you have to work with once again. Repeating this cycle will move you closer and closer to your desired outcome.
Success doesn’t come in one big chunk. It’s a process of multiple little things that build up to a big result. The only way people can get to their big results is by having the courage to face the little things at hand, get them out of the way, and do this process over and over again until a realization occurs of their worthy result.
The key word is “Courage.” Almost everyone has some dream, but very few will ever bring their dreams to fruition. Once again, it’s not because they lack the resources. Lack comes from not having the courage to get done whatever you can with what you have to work with at that moment.
Look at the successful people throughout time. Almost every single one of them faced insurmountable odds and obstacles. Failure was prevalent throughout the process to their victory. These people simply did whatever they could each day, with what they had to work with, and eventually experienced victory.
Success in anything is a victory over your self-imposed limitations.
When you quickly exhaust all your current action steps, you will find new opportunities open for you and new action steps to follow. Quickly clear these new steps and the ones to follow. As you proceed with this process, you will find your dream life unfolding step-by-step.
I’ve taken many people on the journey from despair and lack to a life of prosperity. The first element I have all my students address is to confront (face) life fully and develop the attitude of “Do It Now.” Do what you may ask? Complete whatever you can identify as the most basic steps toward your dream life.
If there is a habit you have that’s getting in the way to your dreams, eliminate it. If there are simple chores or tasks that are lingering in your life, clear them out. If you can only complete one or two tasks toward your desired results, get those done immediately.
As you complete the things you can, at this time, with what you have to work with, you’ll have new possibilities be granted upon you. The new possibilities will never come to you until you clear all the “little things” that you can at this time.
I know this year is coming to a close and most people are repeating their same Mental Codes®. You probably are finding this year’s closing is similar to those in the past. You have good intentions for the New Year, but if you don’t grasp what I’m sharing with you, the cycle will continue.
Courage is the secret to success. If you have limitations or fear of any sort, use your courage to control them and excel beyond your current ability. The only way a person grows to a bigger life is by having the courage to make it happen.
Intelligence can actually be detrimental to success. An intelligent person can give you logical reasons why something isn’t possible. Using logic can actually make a person not confront what they need to do. An intelligent person may say, “As soon as…I’m going to do this.” This approach will always keep a person waiting because perfect opportunities aren’t delivered on your doorstep; they’re created by courageously facing the little things and getting them done quickly. This “clearing process” creates a bigger you in a systematic process that always produces more success.
I encourage you to courageously look at your life. What do you want? What little things can you do right now? Are you willing to courageously confront them and get them completed? Are you willing to once and for all give 100% to your desired results and stop concentrating on why something isn’t possible?
As you complete the little steps, greater possibilities will come to you. As you experience more and more, you will create an unbelievable life. Not only will others not believe what you’ve accomplished, you’ll be so amazed with the results, you won’t believe it yourself.
If you enjoyed this article, please share it with others. I give this information freely with the intent of you one day saying, “My life was much better because I knew him.”
Until we share more life together in the future “Five Minute Mental Breaks,” I am remaining
In Loving Service,
Dr. Michael J. Duckett

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The World is Watching YOU!

Close your eyes….

Let life fill you

Good or Bad its LIFE

Find your WHY its PURPOSE

You know what your feeling you can see it!

The answer is in YOU

Tha hardest part is just believing in YOURSELF!

Come oN STop and Listen to the MUSIC in your HEART!

Your not out of it Yet by FAR!

I can tell you that you are part of all that exist and trust me when I say this!!!!!

Your Reading this Right!

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Move into forward motion click below to get structured in your winning gameplan for 2010

Regardless of what you do just do something and do it TODAY!

Que Pasa Mi Gente

What’s up party people!

This past weekend I attended Survival Tactics for Tough Times event in Atlanta.

I met so many GREAT folks at this event and I am SUPER THANKFUL to Devon Brown aka “The Success Renegade” for showing me what it means to Bring Sexy Back!

I’m truly greatful that I got a chance to met such a remarkable group of people!

All I got to say is I know there is a burning DESIRE in you that wants to do something else…

Your confused or scared to step out of your comfort zone.

Please don’t look back at your life and regret not living it to the fullest, start you homework now and plant seeds!

Check out my man Devon and see if you got the moves to join his crew!

Please find a quiet place and listen to this video. Watch it and Listen to again and again.

Teach it within 24 to 48 hours!!

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I don’t know about you but 2009 went by fast as heck for me. I sometimes reflect and wonder if I did the best I could have done this year.

No one can tell you what the heck to do.

The thing I figured out is that in life WE ALL get pulled buy some thought/force/feeling that causes us emotions and makes us react a certain way

If your looking to make changes now is a great time, dont wait any longer to say your going to…quit smoking, lose weight, make more money, find the right person, start a business, go to school, work on your relationship, and the list goes on and on!

Secretly you know what it is you need to do…

Baby steps…but there is no better time than NOW!

As we wind down 2009 I want you to start reflecting on using gratitude to position you for 2010.

1. BE THANKFUL-

Be very very greatful, this area is sometimes so easily missed because of our day to day routine. Don’t get it twisted, this is key. Even if things seem super dismal, there is a seed of hope. The problem is sometimes we dont want to hear this ish because we are so busy being worried with the issue or problem, which makes us say F IT.
I can’t tell you what the silver lining is but there is usually one.

There was a time you had a smile on your face, start with what that felt like and blow it up emotionally. (Charge it Up)

2. Get on L.S.D.

LOVE SERVICE AND DEDCATION

Love says it all, love for yourself and others.

Service to others and helping others and sometimes putting others first.

Dedication to follow through and be disciplined to do what you say and say what you do.
Not only when its convienient.

Joe Schroeder put me on to LSD and I’m hooked.

3. Have Fun-

Things don’t have to be so rigid, let loose be you and just chill. You can still have fun and become aware of self. You gotta DANCE and be free! Let LOOSE! LAUGH!
Let the KID inside of you BE!

I challenge you to make moves and do something no matter what it is.

Click on the link below and get your roadmap. Lets chat soon.

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Everyone, at some point of his or her life, has dreamed of being somebody special, somebody big. Who hasn’t fantasized about being the one who hits the game-winning homer? Who hasn’t dreamed of being the homecoming queen? And how many times have we dreamed of being rich, or successful, or happy with our relationships?

Often, we dream big dreams and have great aspirations. Unfortunately, our dreams remain just that – dreams. And our aspirations easily collect dust in our attic.

This is a sad turn of events in our life. Instead of experiencing exciting adventures in self actualization, we get caught up in the humdrum of living from day-to-day just barely existing.

But you know what? Life could be so much better, if only we learned to aim higher.

The most common problem to setting goals is the word impossible. Most people get hung up thinking I can’t do this. It’s too hard. It’s too impossible. No one can do this.

However, if everyone thought that, there would be no inventions, no innovations, and no breakthroughs in human accomplishment.

Remember that scientists were baffled when they took a look at the humble bumblebee. Theoretically, they said, it was impossible for the bumblebee to fly. Unfortunately for the bumble, bee no one has told it so. So fly it does.

On the other hand, some people suffer from dreaming totally outrageous dreams and not acting on them. The result? Broken dreams, and tattered aspirations.

If you limit yourself with self-doubt, and self-limiting assumptions, you will never be able to break past what you deem impossible. If you reach too far out into the sky without working towards your goal, you will find yourself clinging on to the impossible dream.

Try this exercise. Take a piece of paper and write down some goals in your life. Under one header, list down things ‘you know you can do’. Under another header, write the things ‘you might be able to do.’ And under one more, list the things that that are ‘impossible for you to do.’

Now look at all the headers strive every day to accomplish the goals that are under things ‘you know you can do’. Check them when you are able to accomplish them. As you slowly are able to check all of your goals under that heading, try accomplishing the goals under the other header-the one that reads ‘you might be able to do.’

As of the items you wrote under things I could do are accomplished, you can move the goals that are under things that are ‘impossible for you to do’ to the list of things ‘you might be able to do.’

As you iterate through this process, you will find out that the goals you thought were impossible become easier to accomplish. And the impossible begin to seem possible after all.

You see, the technique here is not to limit your imagination. It is to aim high, and start working towards that goal little by little. However, it also is unwise to set a goal that is truly unrealistic.

Those who just dream towards a goal without working hard end up disappointed and disillusioned.

On the other hand, if you told someone a hundred years ago that it was possible for man to be on the moon, they would laugh at you. If you had told them that you could send mail from here to the other side of the world in a few seconds, they would say you were out of your mind. But, through sheer desire and perseverance, these impossible dreams are now realities.

Thomas Edison once said that genius is 1% inspiration and 99% perspiration. Nothing could be truer. For one to accomplish his or her dreams, there has to be had work and discipline. But take note that that 1% has to be a think-big dream, and not some easily accomplished one.

Ask any gym rat and he or she will tell you that there can be no gains unless you are put out of your comfort zone. Remember the saying, “No pain, no gain”? That is as true as it can be.

So dream on, friend! Don’t get caught up with your perceived limitations. Think big and work hard to attain those dreams. As you step up the ladder of progress, you will just about find out that the impossible has just become a little bit more possible.

Become TALL and live your Life.

Forget about the past and live it up because you refuse to be denied.

Say it Loud; I refuse to be denied!

Jimmy Santos
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Almost everyone have heard the hit single ‘Don’t Worry, Be Happy’ by Bobby McFerrin. The song has a very catchy way of conveying its message of being happy to everyone. Bobby Mcferiin’s simple message surely made a lot of people by telling them not to worry.

Living a happy, resilient and optimistic life is wonderful, and is also good for your health. Being happy actually protects you from the stresses of life. Stress is linked to top causes of death such as heart disease, cancer and stroke.

One of the better things ever said is – ‘The only thing in life that will always remain the same is change’, and in our life we have the power to make the necessary changes if we want to. Even if we find ourselves in an unbearable situation we can always find solace in the knowledge that it too would change.

Social networks or relationships are essential to happiness. People are different, accept people for who or what they are, avoid clashes, constant arguments, and let go of all kinds of resentments. If arguments seem unavoidable still try and make an effort to understand the situation and you might just get along with well with

Happiness is actually found in everyone, increasing it is a way to make a life more wonderful and also more healthy.

To be happy is relatively easy, just decide to be a happy person. Abraham Lincoln observed that most people for most of the time can choose how happy or stressed, how relaxed or troubled, how bright or dull their outlook to be. The choice is simple really, choose to be happy.

There are several ways by which you can do this.

Being grateful is a great attitude. We have so much to be thankful for. Thank the taxi driver for bringing you home safely, thank the cook for a wonderful dinner and thank the guy who cleans your windows. Also thank the mailman for bringing you your mails, thank the policeman for making your place safe and thank God for being alive.

News is stressful. Get less of it. Some people just can’t start their day without their daily dose of news. Try and think about it, 99% of the news we hear or read is bad news. Starting the day with bad news does not seem to be a sensible thing to do.

A religious connection is also recommended. Being part of a religious group with its singing, sacraments, chanting, prayers and meditations foster inner peace.

Manage your time. Time is invaluable and too important to waste. Time management can be viewed as a list of rules that involves scheduling, setting goals, planning, creating lists of things to do and prioritizing. These are the core basics of time management that should be understood to develop an efficient personal time management skill. These basic skills can be fine tuned further to include the finer points of each skill that can give you that extra reserve to make the results you desire.

Laugh and laugh heartily everyday. Heard a good joke? Tell your friends or family about it. As they also say -’Laughter is the best medicine’.

Express your feelings, affections, friendship and passion to people around you. They will most likely reciprocate your actions. Try not to keep pent up anger of frustrations, this is bad for your health. Instead find ways of expressing them in a way that will not cause more injury or hurt to anyone.

Working hard brings tremendous personal satisfaction. It gives a feeling of being competent in finishing our tasks. Accomplishments are necessary for all of us, they give us a sense of value. Work on things that you feel worthy of your time.

Learning is a joyful exercise. Try and learn something new everyday. Learning also makes us expand and broaden our horizons. And could also give us more opportunities in the future.

Run, jog, walk and do other things that your body was made for. Feel alive.

Avoid exposure to negative elements like loud noises, toxins and hazardous places.

These are the few simple things you can do everyday to be happy.

And always remember the quote from Abraham Lincoln, he says that, “Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.”

What makes you happy?

Become happiness and happiness will become you.

All this is NO GOOD if you don’t implement it…

Studies in Psychology tell us that the effect you have on others depends
on what you say from the mouth (7%), the manner in which you say it (38%), and
by your body language (55%). In addition, how you sound also imparts a
message, so 93% of emotion is also conveyed without saying the actual words.
This is also true in selling. In the real world, we sell tangible items and also
ideas. A concise way on how we can sell effectively is by simply using that old
but very powerful arsenal known as body language.
When you sell, you can use postures, facial expressions, gestures,
mannerisms, and your physical appearance to close the sale successfully. Most
customers tend to buy when triggered by their senses. The key here is to do
everything you can to positively affect their senses.
Most people believed the image projected by Saint Mother Theresa is a
positive image. She used her personality to convey a constant image of holiness
and sincerity. We bought the idea of her image.
Non-verbal communication also connotes that a man of few words is a
man of credibility. It’s often not what you say that influences others; it’s what you
don’t say. The signals that you impart using body movements suggest
comprehension, disposition, morality, and compassion.
In selling, the instant you meet a target client, he is already examining you
based on your image and perception in a span of ten seconds or less. This is a
crucial moment in selling, as his first impression of you will definitely make a
permanent mark.
Whether you make or break a sale can literally depend on the non-verbal
signals that you send during this crucial first contact. It’s a must for readers of
this book to understand the facets of body language especially in selling.
Americans, for example, are somewhat categorized as one of the best in reading
body language, because they espouse thousands of non-verbal signs. This
ability makes them formidable negotiators.
In addition, women are generally considered to be more adept to body
language than men because of their natural built-in instincts. Now you know the
secret why some women are more successful than men in the business or
professional field.
As a rule of thumb, body language is being used most of the time all over
the world. The most common example is a nodding head (meaning “yes”).
But it is not necessarily the case every time. For example, shaking legs
might connote that a person is nervous, while it may just be a person’s natural
behavior. A person’s eyes could evade you because he’s hiding something, or it
could also mean that he’s extremely shy.
Given these intricacies, what’s important is to analyze what the message
really is. You can do it by looking at patterns. Look out for groups of signals that
may have the same meaning in relation to the verbal expressions, and also in
cognizance to the circumstances.
Once you have traced the patterns, it is easier to understand body
language. It will therefore help you make a sale.
Written below are some body language techniques to help make your
sales sizzle:
1. You can immediately analyze a person’s personality by studying his
style in shaking hands. An assertive person holds your hand firmly
when you shake his hand. On the other hand, an individual with little or
no confidence often gives a frail handshake. A person who wants to
win your trust would usually shake your hand with his other hand
covering the shake or holding your elbow. Adopt a handshake that is
firm, yet not crushing. Convey confidence and professionalism, not
dominance.
2. Posture is another aspect of body language. A slouching shoulder with
your eyes looking on the ground can indicate lack of interest. Standing
straight with your weight balanced on each foot gives you a more
assured and relaxed look. Always maintain a straight body, whether
you’re standing or sitting.
3. Match the straight open posture with a genuine facial expression.
Dispose of the sunglasses. The client may think that you are hiding
something, as he can’t see through your eyes. When he looks straight
in your eyes, he can tell if you are lying, so be transparent. Lay down
your cards and throw the shades away. But be sure to avoid piercing
looks. The client might get intimidated.
4. When doing sales calls and presentations, be sure to use sincere and
open movements all the time. Do not cross your arms, as this can ruin
the trust of your potential customer. The outward and upward gestures
of your hands are recommendable. If you lean back on a
chair and place your hands at the back of your head, it may drive your
clients away as this is a sure sign of arrogance and a false sense of
confidence. Meanwhile, if you place your hands on your waists, you
are exuding positive confidence.
5. “Don’t point.” Pointing at a client is equivalent to death wish in selling. It
is as if you’re waving your sales opportunity goodbye. Pointing is an
aggressive act that can be interpreted as hostility, so throw this gesture
out the window if you really want to sell.
6. In sales, here are signs that you are open for negotiations and are
willing to compromise. Unbuttoning your jacket means you are ready to
talk and to listen to a counter offer. Removing your jacket or rolling
your sleeves up is a very good sign for the client, as this means you
are ready to decide or to give in to the final price.
You, as the seller, may also use body language as a tool to recognize and
counteract any potential objections by the client. The usual scenarios include the
following:
1. If the client’s arms are crossed, it means he is disinterested. Use
counter measures like positive movements to cause them to uncross
their arms, and for you to begin the sales approach. When his arms
and legs are uncrossed, and his hands are open, this is the best
scenario, as they are open to your ideas…and a sale is more likely to
happen.
2. Another good sales scenario is when the client mimics your gestures
like when you fix your hair and the client follows. It shows he is very
receptive to your ideas and open to buy your idea or product. If this is
the case, throw all your barrage of features and benefits, and close the
sale! This point is crucial as you can make or break the sale.
3. If the client covers his mouth, touches his nose, or the part near the
eye, there’s a probability that you are losing the sale. Something you
said or did might have discouraged him. But don’t despair. Do the
selling process again; but this time, do it differently. Reassure the client
that he is getting a great deal and encourage him to open up and share
ideas. Open your palms and unconsciously let him see you
occasionally putting your palm to your chest (this signifies honesty).
Then try to reach that positive sales atmosphere again and close the
sale.
4. Always be alert to the signs the client is exhibiting. If the client shows
interest through his body movements, give the final sales blow and
close the sale. The client’s body language may change from positive to
suspecting. In this case, take it easy, gather your wits, read your
client’s moods, and try to win him back. Always exhibit openness and
sincerity. When the client crosses his legs and arms, this is a warning
signal.
You must make every effort to earn the trust of the client, so that you
ultimately can close the deal.
5. In worse cases where you are unable to close the sale, try to be
professional and diplomatic at all times. Thank the client for listening
and shake his hand with sincerity. Sales cannot be achieved overnight
and you generally win some and lose some. Closing the presentation
on a positive note will leave a good impression of you. Who knows, he
might be your next positive client at some other time.
Use your body every way you can in the selling process. Always be
enthusiastic. If you truly believe in the high quality of your product or service,
other people will be positively affected by your enthusiasm. Body movements can
convince prospects to become believers in what you are offering.